Women as I know them

Caution: I believe I am writer by hobby: I prefer my views should not be associated with Mother, Daughter and Sisters notions of a women! Nonetheless I invite your views.



From Shakespeare to Picasso and Kalidas... many have tried to write upon women... I am also fascinated to redo the impossible so far. Though best way to express my ignorance before I pretend I am capable I want to mention a dialog of a TV soap I used to watch in my teens 'Captain Vyom'. A Sunday Scie-Fi show about the 23 century of Human Life. 

The dialog was... "We invented time machines at this 2300AD but the women heart is still unpredictable to mankind"

To my curiosity and childhood rebellion attitude, long-long ago, I once asked from a old lady of my neighborhood "What so special happens after the marriage that we cherish if someone gets pregnant but not do so if it happens before marriage?" she replied "You men can never understand that we cherish in both the cases but pretend as this man-made society wants us to pretend...". Her reply was even more perplexing to me. Late around the last days of teens, I got to figure out the meaning of her answer.

In this fight of from Venus Vs. from Mars species, I never got to know that who is wrong... A book 'The Company of Women' by Khuswant Singh, he wrote "all a man wants from a women is sex and a little bit of  companionship" but even the great book of Anne Frank 'A diary of a young girl' cannot tell me that what a women wants from a men. I ones tried to write a small story by keeping myself in a girls shoe. I narrated it as if I am a girl and explained (tired to) how a girl behaves while being alone in her bedroom or while in secrete love with a boy who does not meets to her social status. That narration has got many critics and appreciation from the girls forte. Out of many one such comment was "Perhaps you did never knew that girls have no constant mindset and no standard scale of measuring boys!!" I repeatedly demanded the explanation  of reviewers viewpoint but she refused every time.  In my certain experiences with the girls of my age (and above) in some vary wired relationship of being secrete friend. A friend who listens the boyfriends injustice and gives solution accordingly. I succeeded to know what even their husbands (or boyfriends) will never get to know about their pasts. This is one of many heavy crap which compelled me to write this article. 

Attribute Conscious 
Primary need of a women is to look beautiful and immediate to it is to get the complements of her beauty. This attribute is the only weakness of the softest but strongest creature of God. Biologically also, they are supposed to look beautiful and soft and so are proposed to be left in the safety zone while men used to go out for hunting and earning food for house. This 20th century has begun challenging this attribute of a women which is inviting many other consequences.

Women is easy-complex species
Having too much  of materialistic stockpiles in her cupboard, her demands remain simple i.e. seek attraction. The maximum it is the happier she is. Materialistic cosmo of a women is never her precious asset, she is ready to destroy it all only to rebuild for the objectives she ones determines in her heart. She is the most determined executive of this world.


If I root my scope of study to genetic configuration of a woman, I bet women are more symmetrical then man. They have got XX chromosomes symmetry unlike to that of men XY. A weird way to prove that women are more determined to achieve their objectives however big or small.

Termed as luxury for men
I remember ones a double PhD holder 55 year old academician shared his views about her wife... he said "Wife is the biggest hurdle of a man's professional success" I kept my eyes wide open to react his comment and ashamed of him when he introduced his wife to me. She was so much concerned of his health and other professional troubles that she used to request me for sharing his part of job at office.  In his book 'The Argumentative Indian" Dr. Amratya Sen claimed the Panchali (Dropadi) was the reason of that great holy war. I ridicule his stand though many do not.

Power
In a very small story, narrated in a Bollywood movie based upon the Khajhurao's kamsutra topic, it was told about a prostitute, with whom one king was in love, so wanted her to bring in his harem. He offered her big wealth to which she refused by saying "this much is as good as to buy her a single ear-ring". The king borrowed more money from other states and offered her but she again refused by saying "this much is not even enough for second ear-ring let alone for herself. King then consulted to his minister and asked for the suggestion to which minister said 'my lord you are the king of the kings just go and bring her to your feet by the power of your sword'. King got satisfied with the suggestion and rushed to the prostitutes mansion. As king entered to her room carrying sword and shouting, she appeared naked in front of the king... sword dropped off the kings hand and he returned defeated. Later, she explained that her only vow is that her beauty must not be sold for power, greed, wealth of any or all men of the world put together but for the love and love alone...!!!

This is indeed true.... that a man is nothing if a women comes in her real form. This world have witnessed many success stories of women in the fortes mend for only men.

Offensive
The sad fact is that, social structures have forced the women to choose a little from the large pool. So while choosing they are at the most of their brains than hearts. If I inscribe the females of all the living species than also it holds true that given the chance of showing their will, they never compromise on something which has the risk of not having desired future. Once they choose what they want they own it with rigid heart.






Weakness
I remember one poetry of William Shakespeare in which he tried to describe the agony of an ageing  women. How she begins to hate the mirror she otherwise used to stare for hours... He tells the pain of wrinkling eyes, jealousy from the young women. It is mesmerizing to see that a women is expressing her proud of being beautiful.

Besides many complexities... I cannot force stopping to spark a conflict by generalizing a few constant notion of a women. One is, A women takes too much time for any action (...yes to any extent you can think) but once she is done she stands by it for all hot and cold impacts of her action. Second, A women has trillion times more bearing capacity than men. And above all, always fragile and beautiful were been the reason of major changes in this world...

Views invited... Happy loving... Cheers!!! 

7 comments:

divya said...

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

divya said...

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Rahul Patil said...

Wow....... but it has created a space in my mind; means blank!!! i will have to think before commenting anything Sir.

Prachi Shrotriya said...

very true sir......this is all about a woman is.....

Prachi Shrotriya said...

very true sir..this is all about a woman is........

Beena Mishra said...

I still have a feeling you got a few things wrong. I do not know why do all men have so dificulty in understanding a woman's heart, its just as simple and as serene as their's or anyone else's. The simple thing is do not go for trying to understand the complete species rather go for understanding the one that is beside you. Do not say we change coz you do too. And do not say we are materialistic as i too have seen women that are materialistic but then have seen men who are too. Just the difference between men and women lies in the fact that we have not been given the right to open up our mouths in the public as that is considered rebelious. We have been living with it and can assure u could live for the other century and the other after that too, for the most important thing for a woman is the fact that her loved ones are happy and satisfied. She has been drilled since the day she was born that she has to carry the legacy of the family prestige though all the other legacies go to a man, and so she should behave well and do not do anything that harms the prestige of her family and more importantly their father-a man, so given a choice with everything kept aside and no drillings she would definately choose the one with no future, no prospects and no money but still a heart of gold filled with love for her rather than going for the one with the prospects who is going to torture and kill her in a month for some sheets of paper.

Women have got the power to cuddle a man and feel him protected when he is completely shunned by the whole world and is being called a loser and she also have got the power to take a sword and stand beside a man to fight for the thing she loves, be it her family member or be it her motherland. So do not try to understand her just understand your ownself in her situation and rather love her for what she is and how she is...
So if you had had some wrong encounters with women just know that it is not that the whole population of men is exactly like one and same goes for women so better blame your knowledge about women to your perticular encounters and not on the whole population.

Beena Mishra said...

I still have a feeling you got a few things wrong. I do not know why do all men have so dificulty in understanding a woman's heart, its just as simple and as serene as their's or anyone else's. The simple thing is do not go for trying to understand the complete species rather go for understanding the one that is beside you. Do not say we change coz you do too. And do not say we are materialistic as i too have seen women that are materialistic but then have seen men who are too. Just the difference between men and women lies in the fact that we have not been given the right to open up our mouths in the public as that is considered rebelious. We have been living with it and can assure u could live for the other century and the other after that too, for the most important thing for a woman is the fact that her loved ones are happy and satisfied. She has been drilled since the day she was born that she has to carry the legacy of the family prestige though all the other legacies go to a man, and so she should behave well and do not do anything that harms the prestige of her family and more importantly their father-a man, so given a choice with everything kept aside and no drillings she would definately choose the one with no future, no prospects and no money but still a heart of gold filled with love for her rather than going for the one with the prospects who is going to torture and kill her in a month for some sheets of paper.

Women have got the power to cuddle a man and feel him protected when he is completely shunned by the whole world and is being called a loser and she also have got the power to take a sword and stand beside a man to fight for the thing she loves, be it her family member or be it her motherland. So do not try to understand her just understand your ownself in her situation and rather love her for what she is and how she is...
So if you had had some wrong encounters with women just know that it is not that the whole population of men is exactly like one and same goes for women so better blame your knowledge about women to your perticular encounters and not on the whole population.

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